5Grief is a surreal and deeply personal experience. As I navigate the recent loss of my mother, I find myself moving through waves of emotions—some days feeling a profound ache, and other days holding onto moments of peace and gratitude. It’s not easy, and it doesn’t always make sense, but I’ve learned that grief is a journey we walk one step at a time.
I had the incredible blessing of spending the entire holiday season with my mom just over a year ago. We celebrated Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, and her 82nd birthday together. Little did I know that those would become some of the most cherished memories I’d carry with me. The pictures from those days have become treasures. I find myself looking at them often, getting lost in the memories, and feeling a mix of joy and sorrow.
Grief has a way of pulling at every emotion—love, sadness, gratitude, and even guilt for moving forward. Some moments, the weight feels unbearable, while other times, I’m surprised by how much comfort I find in remembering the good times.
In the midst of it all, I’ve been intentional about how I spend my time. Staying engaged in my studies, spiritual growth, and business responsibilities has given me a sense of purpose and grounding. It hasn’t been about ignoring the pain but about not letting it consume me.
When the tears come, I let them. When memories surface, I allow myself to feel the bittersweet emotions they bring. But I also take time to reflect on the incredible blessing it was to have her in my life for 59 wonderful years. My mom was a woman of love and hospitality, and her impact on the lives of those around her continues to inspire me.
I wanted to share a few things that have helped me during this time. Maybe they’ll resonate with you or someone you know who’s navigating loss.
Letting Myself Feel
There are moments when the emotions hit hard, and I remind myself that it’s okay to cry, to laugh at a memory, or to simply sit in silence. Giving myself permission to feel has been healing.
Creating Space for Reflection
I’ve made it a habit to set aside time for journaling and prayer. This has been my sacred space to process my emotions and connect with God for strength and comfort.
Remembering the Good Times
Looking at pictures, listening to her favorite music, and reflecting on her legacy of love have been bittersweet but beautiful ways to honor her life.
Staying Engaged in Growth
Focusing on my studies, spiritual growth, and work has been a healthy way to keep moving forward. These activities remind me that life continues, and I can still honor my mom by living well.
Connecting with Others
Talking with friends and family has been a reminder that I’m not alone in this journey. Sharing stories about her and hearing how she touched others’ lives brings comfort.
Grief is teaching me that healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means carrying her love with me as I continue to live. There’s no timeline for grief, no “right way” to move forward. What matters is taking it one step at a time and allowing myself grace along the way.
My mom’s legacy of hospitality, love, and care is something I hope to continue reflecting in my own life. Even in the midst of the pain, I feel so grateful to have had her in my life for as long as I did.
To those who are also grieving, know that it’s okay to feel all the emotions, to take time for yourself, and to seek help when you need it. Grief isn’t a path we walk alone, and there’s strength in sharing the journey with others.
Every day, I remind myself that even through the tears, hope is still present. Healing takes time, and that’s okay. I’m choosing to honor my mom by living a life she’d be proud of, one day at a time.
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